If I can let go of my agendas for my children (ie, what I want them to accomplish, how I want them to behave and even to look like) then I am free to be fascinated by who they are and who they were meant to be. With this mindset, I go from wishing they were more athletic or more musical or more intellectual to yearning to know them more deeply.

There will be days when your child is really struggling. And the healthiest involvement is leaning in, being quiet, listening and telling them "I trust you can work this out."

At Wonder, we believe parents are the central guides, heroes and experts in each child’s learning journey. And we believe parents need to check this power carefully so the journey continues to be the child’s very own and not what we wish it to be.

Conflicts don’t need to be volatile and negative; they can lead to increased understanding and creative thinking. It’s how we deal with conflict that determines the outcome.

Hovering over our children does long-term damage to their confidence and well-being.